Abilene writes that her whole family is offended, presumably by her behaviour since her son died. How can they be offened? No matter how she behaves, how is it that they don't understand? I don't understand. I feel so distressed for her, not that my distress will in any way help her. At the moment, I doubt there is anything that will help her. Nothing can penetrate the pain. Nothing. Not yet.
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- 2008-03-31 @ 14:39:29
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evilmomlady
- 2008-04-01 @ 22:16:20
Yes, anything goes for the person or persons grieving, and this is perfectly understandable, but that family and friends turn away or don't understand, is just awful.
I was lucky really in that when my son and later my husband died I received a lot of support.
There were those who did act in a hurtful way (that is if I'd been able to be hurt any more than I already was), but they weren't people who were close friends, so they didn't matter.
I've just read Lyndlj's post in the Neveralone group. It's such a heartbreaking tale, especially as she didn't receive the support of family and friends. I wish I could have been there for her.
I hope that when your mum died you had the support of family and friends.
Big Hug XXX-
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- 2008-04-01 @ 22:26:00
Not from my husband, although he did just let me get on with it. I phoned from Scotland during the fortnight after it (I was there for 2 weeks before and 2 weeks after) in need of comfort, he passed the phone to Mini (who was 7 at the time) - I could hear him shouting //"Yes!"// and punching the air. He couldn't be bothered chatting cos he was playing a board game with his family. A very lonely time.
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evilmomlady
- 2008-04-01 @ 22:41:41
I'm so sorry.
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- 2008-04-01 @ 22:51:27
Its ok, it brought me here (where I'm at now)
and I'm much much happier now
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evilmomlady
- 2008-04-01 @ 22:53:01
I'm really glad
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I agree. Pretty much //anything// goes when you're in the depths of grief. xx